I do not like to give spankings. I was against them in the beginning, but with reading and learning more about biblical discipline, I have come to understand the reasoning. From my book, Shepherding a Child's Heart," Bad behavior represents a failure to obey and is therefore the occasion for correction. The spanking comes because it is God's method off driving foolishness far from your child's heart." Children need to know what is expected and what their boundaries are for their own safety. Discipline is for obedience to your parents and ultimately to God. Our consistency is also a big factor. Jacob used to throw frequent all out screaming angry fits. Since his spankings, maybe three since we started, he has a totally different attitude and much happier. He has the kind of personality that he gets angry and frustrated easily, but he does not have the fits and anger that he used to. He is also much more obedient. Luke is finding out about spankings lately too. It is so hard, but also important. The other day he got very angry with me over which movie he wanted to watch and he yelled at me tried to hit me, something he has never done before. That was without a doubt going to get him a spanking. He cried and screamed harder in anticipation of the spanking than the actual spanking itself. He got so worked up in worrying about it. After the spanking we talk a lot about why the spanking was giving and why we must spank and how much we love them. I do see the need for spankings and I do see what happens in children who are not. “Spare the rod spoil the child” Afterwards, he was the sweetest loviest kid. The rest of the day he was in a good mood and told me he loved me more than usual. He tells me this multiple times a day and oh how I love it!
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