Yesterday I spoke with a pastor at the Cornerstone church. He really opened my eyes to what needs to change in our home. I learned the correct way to discipline. As parents, we have failed in this way with Jacob and it has shown. Jacob does not obey very well and he has a lot of anger. The anger is him throwing a big temper tantrum. He is 8 years old and throws temper tantrums for us often. Last night Jacob showed me 4 different fits that I wanted to get after him for. I knew the process and Mark and I had not yet explained our expectations, limits, and consequneces to Jake yet. So for that night I ignored it, but it was a reality check as to just how bad things had gotten.
Day 1- After school Jacob was given his warning, pointed out what he was doing wrong, throwing a fit, explained how he should behave, and told him he would get a spanking if he threw a fit anymore. Sure enough later in the evening during homework time, he was trying to be subtle and yet see what my response would be. I could tell he was testing me. I ignored the very small stuff, but it was obvious he was trying to see how far he could go. From there it was off to his room where we discussed calmly what was happening and why. He got his spanking and I hated every bit of it, but I knew it had to be done. This is going to be a hard battle for us, but I am praying that God will help me in discipline and that Jake will respect authority and his behavior can change.
Day 1- After school Jacob was given his warning, pointed out what he was doing wrong, throwing a fit, explained how he should behave, and told him he would get a spanking if he threw a fit anymore. Sure enough later in the evening during homework time, he was trying to be subtle and yet see what my response would be. I could tell he was testing me. I ignored the very small stuff, but it was obvious he was trying to see how far he could go. From there it was off to his room where we discussed calmly what was happening and why. He got his spanking and I hated every bit of it, but I knew it had to be done. This is going to be a hard battle for us, but I am praying that God will help me in discipline and that Jake will respect authority and his behavior can change.
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